Today on sorority misconceptions debunked: Isn't being in a sorority just paying for your friends? No, kind reader, I do not pay for my friends. I pay for some of the experiences that I have with the women in my chapter, who quickly become my friends because of the values that we share and the … Continue reading I Don’t Pay for My Friends
Before I say anything else, let me preface with this: I would not have chosen to become a mother. I never felt the call to motherhood, never felt the maternal urge. I wanted to live my life without being responsible for a tiny, squealing, helpless human. I did not want to change diapers ten times … Continue reading Why I Never Wanted to Be a Mom
Last night, I was undressing my infant daughter to get her ready for her bath. This is a nightly ritual where I nibble on her feet, play "This Little Piggie Went to Market," blow raspberries on her tummy, tickle her ribs, and, yes, pinch her teeny, tiny bare booty. That last part shocked my sister. … Continue reading Being a Mother in a World that Sexualizes Female Bodies
I'm walking into class and my classmate turns to me to ask how my daughter is. She doesn't ask how I am (which is usually pretty chipper by the way), but how the one year old is. The one year old who can't talk and literally does the same thing every day. The one year … Continue reading The Perception of Motherhood
Fairly recently, my father and I had been talking about how my daughter's hair was growing out so that it curled at her neck (making it look kind of like a mullet). He made a comment about how he couldn't wait for it to get longer so she would "stop looking like a boy." Upon … Continue reading Raising Daughters
I am so happy Sharon– author of Becoming Mother –said this! I have suffered so much guilt from dropping my daughter off. I even project that guilt onto my daughter’s teachers, making me think they hate me for daring to send her to school. I’ve often felt that the only societally justifiable jobs to forgo being a STAHM are nurse or teacher, but I try to remind myself that it’s (mostly) all in my head.
Some women tear up as they leave their children at daycare for the first time.
I practically skip inside.
Grin from ear to ear.
I. LOVE. DAYCARE.
Last Monday was Henry’s first day of daycare. Another daycare mom saw me taking him inside and asked if it was his first day. After I nodded, she jumped out of her van and gave me the biggest hug and said, “Isn’t it great!”
“YESSS!!!” I yelled.
“With the first one, you’re bawling about it and then the second, you’re just like ‘have fun!'”
She gets it.
It’s true. The first time we started daycare was much more involved and made me a little nervous. We spent about 20 minutes going through the list of critical bits of information that the infant teacher needed to know to feed, change, and soothe our baby to sleep.
She likes to be rocked to sleep while…
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"Could she even seek her dinner in a tavern or roam the streets at midnight?" -"Shakespeare's Sister," from A Room of One's Own by Virginia Woolf (Helpful links to learn more: wiki page /spark notes / full text) Woolf is pointing out the dangers of living alone in the city as a woman. Even in … Continue reading What was Virginia Woolf Wearing?
In last week's article Gender Roles & the Workplace Pt. 2 (the Influence of Caregiving), I talked about how women are less likely to be hired than their male counterparts because of their status/potential status of motherhood, which is deemed a cause of "distraction" in the workplace. Firstly, a lot of this "distraction" stems from … Continue reading Why You Should Hire Moms
In last week's article Gender Roles & the Workplace Pt. 1 (Wage Gap), I talked about how women are paid less due to various gender-related factors--some of them unintentionally. For example, women often have less work experience because of maternity leave and employers often associate working moms with lots of sick days, long lunch breaks, … Continue reading The Influence of Caregiving
By now, we all know that women are paid only 80 cents on the dollar compared to men, a 20% wage gap that widens as we age. The reasoning behind this is often explained away as being "a byproduct of the choices women make: choices to work fewer hours, take on lower-paying jobs, or opt … Continue reading The Wage Gap