Fairly recently, my father and I had been talking about how my daughter's hair was growing out so that it curled at her neck (making it look kind of like a mullet). He made a comment about how he couldn't wait for it to get longer so she would "stop looking like a boy." Upon … Continue reading Raising Daughters
I am so happy Sharon– author of Becoming Mother –said this! I have suffered so much guilt from dropping my daughter off. I even project that guilt onto my daughter’s teachers, making me think they hate me for daring to send her to school. I’ve often felt that the only societally justifiable jobs to forgo being a STAHM are nurse or teacher, but I try to remind myself that it’s (mostly) all in my head.
Some women tear up as they leave their children at daycare for the first time.
I practically skip inside.
Grin from ear to ear.
I. LOVE. DAYCARE.
Last Monday was Henry’s first day of daycare. Another daycare mom saw me taking him inside and asked if it was his first day. After I nodded, she jumped out of her van and gave me the biggest hug and said, “Isn’t it great!”
“YESSS!!!” I yelled.
“With the first one, you’re bawling about it and then the second, you’re just like ‘have fun!'”
She gets it.
It’s true. The first time we started daycare was much more involved and made me a little nervous. We spent about 20 minutes going through the list of critical bits of information that the infant teacher needed to know to feed, change, and soothe our baby to sleep.
She likes to be rocked to sleep while…
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"Could she even seek her dinner in a tavern or roam the streets at midnight?" -"Shakespeare's Sister," from A Room of One's Own by Virginia Woolf (Helpful links to learn more: wiki page /spark notes / full text) Woolf is pointing out the dangers of living alone in the city as a woman. Even in … Continue reading What was Virginia Woolf Wearing?
In last week's article Gender Roles & the Workplace Pt. 2 (the Influence of Caregiving), I talked about how women are less likely to be hired than their male counterparts because of their status/potential status of motherhood, which is deemed a cause of "distraction" in the workplace. Firstly, a lot of this "distraction" stems from … Continue reading Why You Should Hire Moms
In last week's article Gender Roles & the Workplace Pt. 1 (Wage Gap), I talked about how women are paid less due to various gender-related factors--some of them unintentionally. For example, women often have less work experience because of maternity leave and employers often associate working moms with lots of sick days, long lunch breaks, … Continue reading The Influence of Caregiving
By now, we all know that women are paid only 80 cents on the dollar compared to men, a 20% wage gap that widens as we age. The reasoning behind this is often explained away as being "a byproduct of the choices women make: choices to work fewer hours, take on lower-paying jobs, or opt … Continue reading The Wage Gap
I recreated myself, unintentionally, through motherhood at age 20. Having never planned on children at any stage, my pregnancy came as an unwelcome surprise. I worried what my father would think, how I would handle my course load and my finances, that I would have to get an episiotomy. I mostly worried that I would … Continue reading I Recreated Myself
"We are, after all, the gender onto which a giant Here to Serve button has been eternally pinned. We're expected to nurture and give by the very virtue of our femaleness, to consider other people's feelings and needs before our own." -The Truth That Lives There via Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life … Continue reading Gender Roles & the Expectation to Nurture
Back when I was still pregnant, going on [fourteen] months ago, I posted a little Facebook rant. Yes, I gave in to the temptation. I sinned. This rant happened to be expanding on an article about how the author didn't want to be pigeon-holed as a mother. She explained that she posted on Facebook herself … Continue reading I’m a Mom Who Selfishly Chose to Go to College Anyway
In light of Turner just being released from jail after serving only 3 out of his 6 month sentence, I thought I would leave this here-- It is ridiculous to me that this athlete, Stanford student, white male, young man rapist has received such a lenient sentence (especially in the state of California -- a … Continue reading The Long Term Ramifications of Brock Turner’s Lenient Sentence