The Perception of Motherhood

I'm walking into class and my classmate turns to me to ask how my daughter is. She doesn't ask how I am (which is usually pretty chipper by the way), but how the one year old is. The one year old who can't talk and literally does the same thing every day. The one year …

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Raising Daughters

Fairly recently, my father and I had been talking about how my daughter's hair was growing out so that it curled at her neck (making it look kind of like a mullet). He made a comment about how he couldn't wait for it to get longer so she would "stop looking like a boy." Upon …

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I Heart Daycare (and some ramblings about feminism)

I am so happy Sharon– author of Becoming Mother –said this! I have suffered so much guilt from dropping my daughter off. I even project that guilt onto my daughter’s teachers, making me think they hate me for daring to send her to school. I’ve often felt that the only societally justifiable jobs to forgo being a STAHM are nurse or teacher, but I try to remind myself that it’s (mostly) all in my head.


Becoming Mother

Some women tear up as they leave their children at daycare for the first time.

I practically skip inside.

Grin from ear to ear.


Last Monday was Henry’s first day of daycare. Another daycare mom saw me taking him inside and asked if it was his first day. After I nodded, she jumped out of her van and gave me the biggest hug and said, “Isn’t it great!”

“YESSS!!!” I yelled.

“With the first one, you’re bawling about it and then the second, you’re just like ‘have fun!'”

She gets it.

It’s true. The first time we started daycare was much more involved and made me a little nervous. We spent about 20 minutes going through the list of critical bits of information that the infant teacher needed to know to feed, change, and soothe our baby to sleep.

She likes to be rocked to sleep while…

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The Influence of Caregiving

In last week's article Gender Roles & the Workplace Pt. 1 (Wage Gap), I talked about how women are paid less due to various gender-related factors--some of them unintentionally. For example, women often have less work experience because of maternity leave and employers often associate working moms with lots of sick days, long lunch breaks, …

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Gender Roles & the Expectation to Nurture

"We are, after all, the gender onto which a giant Here to Serve button has been eternally pinned. We're expected to nurture and give by the very virtue of our femaleness, to consider other people's feelings and needs before our own." -The Truth That Lives There via Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life …

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